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Hmmm...well, I consider myself bisexual and that doesn't really apply to me. For example, one of my favorite modes of sex is with a male/female couple...and in that circumstance I can be wide open to men sexually...but not in many others.

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Hmmm...well, I consider myself bisexual and that doesn't really apply to me. For example, one of my favorite modes of sex is with a male/female couple...and in that circumstance I can be wide open to men sexually...but not in many others. I am not attracted to men in any kind of a general way like I am with women. With men it's highly specific to the person and the circumstance.

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What i said was "Attracted physically/sexually to both men and women. " I did NOT say "equally" to both. I assume you don't have sex with men whom you are not in any way attracted to sexually/physically. I've never had any sort of physical/sexual attraction to any men. Including those whom i thought would probably be physically attractive to women or to other men. Like i've mentioned to you, i underwent an "acid test" in this regard, on a San Francisco beach.

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I would propose that bisexuality comes in an infinite number of varieties. And there are heterosexual people. However, I am also aware that for most, homoerotic feelings are often concealed behind many forms of defenses, cultural acceptability and much else. So they can be difficult to access for many who do possess them.

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To re-post from above.

I know a whole bunch of people who came through a crucible at the same time, we were part of the anarchist/left communist milieu in the SF Bay Area in the mid/late '70s. Bisexuality was put forth by many in that milieu as being the norm, and someone was deemed not truly liberated till acknowledging this "fact." I went through some of the same pressures in the anarchist/post-modernist Berkeley scene in the '90s. Anyone who cannot accept my heterosexuality can kindly fuck off.

In other words, wasn't like i haven't been in situations in which bisexuality was not only not only NOT proscribed but actively promoted and indeed promoted as a NORM.

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I understand; that's all been irrelevant to my journey...I've always been guided inwardly.

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Me too. It's still a fact that i was pressured.

To clarify, my "kindly fuck off remark" was in the context of what i experienced in those communities and may experience in dissent communities in the future. Not at all personally directed at either you or Iva.

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