This Month in Covid History, it Was Over. Korean Sex Strike called 4B Comes to US? Sri Yantra Studio: Sex in the Middle Ages, and a Page from Book of Blue.
PS — I glossed over an important point in the covid segment: Corman and Drosten admit they have no sample, in their famous paper. So they develop and test from nothing for something where they don’t know the genetic code. It’s by definition fraud. Then, Eurosurveillance is a publication of the German CDC in concert with the European one, and Drosten heads the German CDC! And is on the editorial board of Eurosurveillance. So to those who mutter about “peer review,” there’s an example.
A couple of comments - your critique of 4B was hilarious as well as being on point. If it was a thing before digital I’d be surprised. So self- defeating for women who want to relate to men. Not to mention encouraging power games.
Loved your interview with Kevin Corbett- he is really measured and precise and a pleasure to listen to his perspective.
As for the test you received in the post, the government in Australia funds sending them out every two years to people over 50! I throw them in the garbage because I’ve understood that they’re used as a fishing expedition to hook you into the sickness business.
I had fun doing it. I had to do the 4B segment twice -- that's never happened. I did one Wednesday and again Thursday, it was good to have a jump on one segment. The opening music fell into my hands serendipitously.
Child, Pluto. What comes to mind is Pluto's transformative, metamorphic influences. Is the child a restart of self; a scrubbing away for fresh start. Or the healing process of interacting with one's child-self trapped in the underworld of one's subconscious. Pluto (Greek:Hades) would be the man for this job.
Externalising the internal. Also something about the Hunger Games. Spirituality aside, my mother exists in my memory and a few photos. I've found it helpful to imagine talking to her about how it is with her alcoholic father and how this gave her such mixed emotions about men. And of course how this influences my process.
Loved this edition, Eric, and the way you wove the strands of your pursuits together into marvelous quilt of thought. So grateful for all your work with the chronology and your prose and poetry was divine. Many thanks for a great listen.
OK, i was confounded a bit, didn't know where the Kevin Corbett interview was, your remarks about it starting in 10 minutes were a bit confusing. I found the separate audio. Interesting interview. But some disturbing things too. At around 1:03:00, he started pushing the idea of how the "anti-virology" people needed to do experiments which prove their perspective. You used the example of proving that poltergeist isn't real, but more broadly he is demanding that a negative be proven, totally unscientific. Like proving that purple colored eagles or canines or felines don't exist. The virology hypothesis has been demonstrated to be falsified, unproved, and that's what had to be proved. An alternative hypothesis does NOT have to be presented. He's demanding the impossible.
And i couldn't believe how gaga he went over Trump appointing RFK Jr to head HHS. Junior is NOT even an "anti-vaxxer." He is someone who is STILL pushing the "Pandemic"/"COVID-19"/"SARS-Cov-2” disinformation narrative fraud, in the face of all three aspects being shown to have zero evidence for being valid. And he is pushing the "lab leak bio-weapon" lie. Corbett sees only bad science and "corruption," i.e. money interests, he does not understand the SOCIAL CONTROL realm, that this is all being done with the purpose of enhanced social control, he seems totally blind to this, calling it "conspiratorial," in the face of what you and Michael Bryant presented regarding Event 201 and the Milken Institute conference just 3 weeks ago.
I've picked up your work via Tom Golden at Men are Good. I appreciate what you're doing. I am 60 and have lived in many countries, have never been married, and have been a conscious sexual explorer and lover, artist and writer. I was a sincere feminist throughout my life till a 2018 incident we can talk about if we get into a conversation.
My professional roles have given me many opportunities to hear from women (including as a personal consultant and workshop leader), and I've taken a lifelong interest in both sex as a topic (including its history), and also gender relations. My focus topics with sex are selflove, jealousy and facilitating honest sharing.
That said:
I don't think there is any validity to the idea of women wanting sex less than men, or of men being hornier. This is feminist propaganda — which is really the idea that women are not interested at all. They are lying. It's a PR con job, without which the whole feminist project would fail.
I am not here to prove this to you; I am only here to encourage you to look at the deception being perpetuated. Part of what you're having your view obscured by is your age; I am from another era where there was much more open experimentation with sexuality. American life was not always as shriveled up and moralistic as things are today, and I don't mean a nonstop wild orgy: I mean men and women being turned on by one another and choosing to be sexual.
In my considerable experience, women have a much wider spectrum of sexual capabilities; most can be multi-orgasmic if they want to; and it is a fact that one woman can satisfy a room full of men sexually whereas one man could never satisfy a room full of women without 10 years of Daoist sexual training.
The feminist lie is that women are only the victim of sex and that women think sex is disgusting. This has become ubiquitous. The idea that men are inherently predatory perverts comes from the Seneca Falls (19th century) feminist era and the lie has spread ever since. There are several important installments in Fiamengo Files 2.0 including the videos on Lady Cristabel and Elizabeth Stanton and others.
The sexual conversation is so stifled and so politicized as to be nonexistent. It is not a topic of serious inquiry in our time, only of commentary and activism. Most people lie about sex to some degree but at least most men will admit to liking it and women would have to either be amongst one another or speaking with unusual frankness that would obviate their claim to purity and goodness. I think it's that simple.
There are reasons women often call out so loudly during sex that the entire neighborhood can hear them. This is an evolutionary form of advertising. Sperm competition is a real thing. I suggest you dig into these topics, which I would be willing to collaborate with you on.
As an old old man once said to me when I was a child, "Kid, let me tell you a secret. Women are hornier than men."
Finished the rest. Yes, the inner sanctum, filled in Western society with guilt and shame and sin. Yet, cultures with a Catholic foundation seem to have much healthier attitudes about sex than ones with Protestant backgrounds, maybe just the material culture itself rather than the religion? Brazil vs the US. France vs England, Spain and Italy vs the Netherlands, southern and western Germany vs the center, north and east.......
Loved this! I’m fairly new to your channel and I had not heard anything like this on Covid before. It’s fascinating and I’m open for it. I guess I have some questions. Are you saying that there was no new virus and that people were not getting sick? I would also like to know your thoughts about why we were led to believe there was a pandemic, more info on who was behind it and what their gain was.
On the topic of sex, yes, I agree that knowing how to pleasure yourself is by far one of the most valuable skills to possess. I guess even beyond that knowing how to make yourself happy in general without needing anyone is a foundation we could all use. Then when you add others to either equation, you have an opportunity for something on a completely different level. I agree that idea of withholding sex says much more about the women than the men. It’s a reflection of what those women think they are good for in the eyes of men. That their most valuable possession is their ability to give pleasure. It just plays into the average societal ideas of what women are here for.
Laura, hopefully Eric responds too, but for now, re your first paragraph, this is the best compact discussion regarding these questions, and it's by Eric, from two years ago.
Excellent celebration of the 4th anniversary of the November 2020 events. I try presenting this information to "others" and am encountering more resistance now than i did a year ago. At the natural grocery i go to weekly (Berkeley, California), most of the customers today wore masks, that's been the case forever. Today, the shift manager wore one as well, and when i asked said "People get sick during the holidays, i don't wanna get sick." A young (40ish, if that) guy, worked in record stores, "experienced," and it was obvious i was gonna get nowhere talking to him, even if i had the time to do so for a while. Attempts by me to do so with a FB "friend," a mutual friend of a woman whom you and i are friends with, led nowhere, and she's a skeptic of the official narrative but only so far. Three great examples from Nov '20 as to what's essentially wrong with the official narrative, and no one who isn't already convinced seems to care.
Re the 4Bs strike. I would hesitate to say almost all men want women to have abortion rights and full control over the bodies. There are lots of men (and women) who don't, even some in the "freedom" community. Reproductive rights was not anywhere near the top in terms of issues people considered when casting votes, nowhere near economic matters, with lots of Americans hurting due to a bad downturn which has been hidden by the mass media so far. 58% of "white" women voted for the Orange Guy, so do you boycott them too. How about all the Arab Americans who deserted Harris over the admin's blatant support of the Israeli genocide?
But in a way, you are aiding the boycott. :-) You tell women to learn about their sexuality, including about masturbation. Well, maybe if they did, they'd decide they really don't need to seek sex with guys, no? More and more people are discovering as they age that they really don't need to continue driving themselves crazy seeking relationships and then trying to maintain them, maybe younger women would discover this as well.
In my experiencedit's the sexually self aware people who are worth one's time and energy. This especially includes women, who are supposed to be the sex teachers. Then they can bring the men along. But as i wrote to men in 2014:
<<Learn to take care of women's bodies. If you're a man who has physical relationships with women, it's essential that you actually understand something about what a female body is and why it needs special care. Women's bodies are resilient, amazingly strong and do all kinds of fun and biologically fantastic things that men's bodies don't do. They're also more sensitive and more challenging to maintain. Rise above any ignorance and squeamishness you may have, or any sense that the woman's body is some alien "other." Get yourself a copy of Our Bodies, Ourselves and read it carefully. Ask the women in your life about the special care that their particular bodies need. You would be amazed at the subtlety, the detail and most of all at how much you did not know before.>>
I actually did that, back in the '70s, thirty-five to forty years before you wrote this. Not reciprocated. And she was special. Meaning that the most special woman i ever encountered was actually quite ordinary, selfish, has a TV-structured personality,.. Those lucky people who are self-aware and have hooked up with others who are self-aware, i heartily congratulate them, wish them the best of luck maintaining their special connection. The rest of us just need to learn to be happy with self-sufficiency and stop knocking our heads into the wall once we've done that long enough to say we gave it a shot or two.
"Right now next to nobody even knows what that is because there are no cohesive ideas about it circulating" And that's the reality. Women don't really need the dicks, the men don't really need the pussies, they've simply grown up believing that they do. Yes, there are biological drives, having to do with a reproductive instinct, but if you're one of those who choose to not do so, no reason to go out there and beat yourself up.
Uncle Wilhelm said we have it backwards. He said we think sex is about reproduction and then that shows up as a sexual creative instinct. In reality we have a creative instinct that manifests many ways, and one manifestation is sexual reproduction. He reasoned that maintaining sexual contact with one another, staying in some state of both mutual gratification and balance was necessary for a free society, i.e., not a fascist society. The function of the orgasm is to teach us how to be free and not subject to dictators. A "Trump" could never manifest in a society of sexually self-aware and caring people. He is the product of our collective desperation.
None of the people who have run for president in the last 150 years, if not the entire history of these "United" States, would have manifested in "a society of sexually self-aware and caring people."
Our society is not remotely free. Yes, "staying in some state of both mutual gratification and balance was necessary for a free society," but there hasn't been one since the demise of the societies which existed before centralized city states, aside from such societies as continued to exist in "untamed" parts of the world (a few remain extant), or from a few attempts at total rebellion, such as the federated anarchist collectives in Catalonia in 1936-7 ("Spanish Bombs") which George Orwell participated in/wrote about ("Homage to Catalonia") and Joe Strummer wrote about., and a few other revolutionary episodes.
And humans are biological beings. This includes a reproductive drive, common to all species.
So, in my view, part of sexual maturity and what you might call the Tantric path is teasing out the "reproductive drive" from the erotic creative intuitive aspect of existence. There are many facets of sexual communication and expression that have nothing whatsoever to do with "reproduction" meaning breeding.
Humans do not eat food merely for sustenance. There are endless cultural, social and aesthetic expressions of rituals involving the preparation and sharing of food, but all combined they are a shadow of what we have to learn about one another and ourselves through sexual exploration. It's just that this whole field of knowledge has been so effectively concealed (particularly in the West, by which I mean Judeo - Christian - Muslim society) that it's doubtful whether this inner sanctum exists.
Indeed, humans have developed culture, and this has greatly changed our behavior from the time we were before, both in regard to sex as well as food. We do access inner sanctums in certain states such as psychedelic experiences and deep, deep meditation. Terence McKenna advanced the idea of an "Archaic Revival" via seeking such access.
"He [Wilhelm] reasoned that maintaining sexual contact with one another, staying in some state of both mutual gratification and balance was necessary for a free society, i.e., not a fascist society. The function of the orgasm is to teach us how to be free and not subject to dictators."
He was not at all big on masturbation, i.e. self-sex. One wonders if the sexual contact with one another provides ANYTHING which cannot be attained via self-sex. Certainly a LOT more practical as people's ability to communicate with each other verbally, let alone physically, withers into dust.
What I'm getting at is you don't want sexually needy women. You want sexually self-aware women who desire consciously rather than need; though men participating in their own sexual maturity would be very helpful. Right now next to nobody even knows what that is because there are no cohesive ideas about it circulating -- but that is what you see me doing here.
While it's true we can pleasure ourselves and should, human touch is important. We are a tribal species not meant to be alone. And not just touch, but being able to please and be pleased by someone else. Those who find someone to share this with are indeed lucky. But I get what you are saying. It is tiresome playing the dating game and even more tiring struggling in a relationship that does not yield that special communion.
I was not prescribing that we all refrain from sexual *intercourse*, i.e. the second term requires another person be involved. The young should definitely explore, and if people of any age desire to pursue a relationship involving total mutual consent (adults, of course), why not?
But the reality is that of dating *games* (well chosen word) which are more than anything else about manipulation, and relationships that don't yield that special communion, or even worse, are an energy drain, quite often ones which started out magical and then soured. My longest one turned into a matter of several years of physical abuse (of me).
The "fuck-less Nineties" (Bette Dotson) were the time i got divorced, a terrible time to become and be single, and the pickings got slimmer and slimmer as society around me degenerated into digital disembodiment and increasingly sank into a totalitarian mode, with 9/11 and what's ensued since. Even looking at the few "freedom" folks in Berkeley and the Bay Area leaves me pretty convinced the days of relationships are behind me. So, i take care of myself.
PS — I glossed over an important point in the covid segment: Corman and Drosten admit they have no sample, in their famous paper. So they develop and test from nothing for something where they don’t know the genetic code. It’s by definition fraud. Then, Eurosurveillance is a publication of the German CDC in concert with the European one, and Drosten heads the German CDC! And is on the editorial board of Eurosurveillance. So to those who mutter about “peer review,” there’s an example.
Hi Eric, that was a bumper edition of pwfm!
A couple of comments - your critique of 4B was hilarious as well as being on point. If it was a thing before digital I’d be surprised. So self- defeating for women who want to relate to men. Not to mention encouraging power games.
Loved your interview with Kevin Corbett- he is really measured and precise and a pleasure to listen to his perspective.
As for the test you received in the post, the government in Australia funds sending them out every two years to people over 50! I throw them in the garbage because I’ve understood that they’re used as a fishing expedition to hook you into the sickness business.
Another fantastic and fascinating program. Thank you. Eye opening, heart opening and mind opening.
I had fun doing it. I had to do the 4B segment twice -- that's never happened. I did one Wednesday and again Thursday, it was good to have a jump on one segment. The opening music fell into my hands serendipitously.
Listening again!!! ✅✅✅
Child, Pluto. What comes to mind is Pluto's transformative, metamorphic influences. Is the child a restart of self; a scrubbing away for fresh start. Or the healing process of interacting with one's child-self trapped in the underworld of one's subconscious. Pluto (Greek:Hades) would be the man for this job.
Externalising the internal. Also something about the Hunger Games. Spirituality aside, my mother exists in my memory and a few photos. I've found it helpful to imagine talking to her about how it is with her alcoholic father and how this gave her such mixed emotions about men. And of course how this influences my process.
Child, Pluto, Sphinx.
Well that's a circuitous rabbit hole. Didn't see Alice but Isis turned up apparently associated with Sphinx.
And then there's that big ol' stone sphinx that had a beard. My jury's out pending further investigation.
Just to flippantly suggest, if we go with Sphinx as female, there's the family there; Pluto, Child, Sphinx getting all Aquarian on it.
child trafficking issue is right there.
Oh god, not so flippant. I'm unsure of the dynamics but I can only hope that somewhere, somehow this plays in the favour of children.
I am many things but never flippant. I comment in the audio about this issue from several angles.
I was referring to my own previous comment regarding flippancy; I wouldn't presume to put that on you if that's what you mean ❤️
Loved this edition, Eric, and the way you wove the strands of your pursuits together into marvelous quilt of thought. So grateful for all your work with the chronology and your prose and poetry was divine. Many thanks for a great listen.
most welcome Lulu
OK, i was confounded a bit, didn't know where the Kevin Corbett interview was, your remarks about it starting in 10 minutes were a bit confusing. I found the separate audio. Interesting interview. But some disturbing things too. At around 1:03:00, he started pushing the idea of how the "anti-virology" people needed to do experiments which prove their perspective. You used the example of proving that poltergeist isn't real, but more broadly he is demanding that a negative be proven, totally unscientific. Like proving that purple colored eagles or canines or felines don't exist. The virology hypothesis has been demonstrated to be falsified, unproved, and that's what had to be proved. An alternative hypothesis does NOT have to be presented. He's demanding the impossible.
And i couldn't believe how gaga he went over Trump appointing RFK Jr to head HHS. Junior is NOT even an "anti-vaxxer." He is someone who is STILL pushing the "Pandemic"/"COVID-19"/"SARS-Cov-2” disinformation narrative fraud, in the face of all three aspects being shown to have zero evidence for being valid. And he is pushing the "lab leak bio-weapon" lie. Corbett sees only bad science and "corruption," i.e. money interests, he does not understand the SOCIAL CONTROL realm, that this is all being done with the purpose of enhanced social control, he seems totally blind to this, calling it "conspiratorial," in the face of what you and Michael Bryant presented regarding Event 201 and the Milken Institute conference just 3 weeks ago.
TO RONI FOUCKS
Hi Roni
Good evening from New York.
I've picked up your work via Tom Golden at Men are Good. I appreciate what you're doing. I am 60 and have lived in many countries, have never been married, and have been a conscious sexual explorer and lover, artist and writer. I was a sincere feminist throughout my life till a 2018 incident we can talk about if we get into a conversation.
My professional roles have given me many opportunities to hear from women (including as a personal consultant and workshop leader), and I've taken a lifelong interest in both sex as a topic (including its history), and also gender relations. My focus topics with sex are selflove, jealousy and facilitating honest sharing.
That said:
I don't think there is any validity to the idea of women wanting sex less than men, or of men being hornier. This is feminist propaganda — which is really the idea that women are not interested at all. They are lying. It's a PR con job, without which the whole feminist project would fail.
I am not here to prove this to you; I am only here to encourage you to look at the deception being perpetuated. Part of what you're having your view obscured by is your age; I am from another era where there was much more open experimentation with sexuality. American life was not always as shriveled up and moralistic as things are today, and I don't mean a nonstop wild orgy: I mean men and women being turned on by one another and choosing to be sexual.
In my considerable experience, women have a much wider spectrum of sexual capabilities; most can be multi-orgasmic if they want to; and it is a fact that one woman can satisfy a room full of men sexually whereas one man could never satisfy a room full of women without 10 years of Daoist sexual training.
The feminist lie is that women are only the victim of sex and that women think sex is disgusting. This has become ubiquitous. The idea that men are inherently predatory perverts comes from the Seneca Falls (19th century) feminist era and the lie has spread ever since. There are several important installments in Fiamengo Files 2.0 including the videos on Lady Cristabel and Elizabeth Stanton and others.
The sexual conversation is so stifled and so politicized as to be nonexistent. It is not a topic of serious inquiry in our time, only of commentary and activism. Most people lie about sex to some degree but at least most men will admit to liking it and women would have to either be amongst one another or speaking with unusual frankness that would obviate their claim to purity and goodness. I think it's that simple.
There are reasons women often call out so loudly during sex that the entire neighborhood can hear them. This is an evolutionary form of advertising. Sperm competition is a real thing. I suggest you dig into these topics, which I would be willing to collaborate with you on.
As an old old man once said to me when I was a child, "Kid, let me tell you a secret. Women are hornier than men."
Yours truly,
Eric Francis Coppolino
efc@planetwaves.net
Author of the Planet Waves column
Author/artist of Book of Blue
Host of Planet Waves FM on Pacifica Radio
Here is my interview with Janice Fiamengo on the origins of American femism
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EOC5vFzug4U
This is newer. At about 1:35, I dismantle the 4B Korean girl sex strike bullshit...
https://planetwavesfm.substack.com/p/now-playing-electric-full-moon
Finished the rest. Yes, the inner sanctum, filled in Western society with guilt and shame and sin. Yet, cultures with a Catholic foundation seem to have much healthier attitudes about sex than ones with Protestant backgrounds, maybe just the material culture itself rather than the religion? Brazil vs the US. France vs England, Spain and Italy vs the Netherlands, southern and western Germany vs the center, north and east.......
Loved this! I’m fairly new to your channel and I had not heard anything like this on Covid before. It’s fascinating and I’m open for it. I guess I have some questions. Are you saying that there was no new virus and that people were not getting sick? I would also like to know your thoughts about why we were led to believe there was a pandemic, more info on who was behind it and what their gain was.
On the topic of sex, yes, I agree that knowing how to pleasure yourself is by far one of the most valuable skills to possess. I guess even beyond that knowing how to make yourself happy in general without needing anyone is a foundation we could all use. Then when you add others to either equation, you have an opportunity for something on a completely different level. I agree that idea of withholding sex says much more about the women than the men. It’s a reflection of what those women think they are good for in the eyes of men. That their most valuable possession is their ability to give pleasure. It just plays into the average societal ideas of what women are here for.
thanks Laura, Jeff -- evening off, will be back. xo efc
Laura, hopefully Eric responds too, but for now, re your first paragraph, this is the best compact discussion regarding these questions, and it's by Eric, from two years ago.
https://planetwavesfm.substack.com/p/day-1000-a-holistic-investigation
Also see this,
https://planetwavesfm.substack.com/p/the-fundamental-fraud
I also recommend that you go to https://planetwaves.fm/ and click on "Chronology" at the top, though that's a long one.
Excellent! Thank you thank you!
Pausing after two hours and change.
Excellent celebration of the 4th anniversary of the November 2020 events. I try presenting this information to "others" and am encountering more resistance now than i did a year ago. At the natural grocery i go to weekly (Berkeley, California), most of the customers today wore masks, that's been the case forever. Today, the shift manager wore one as well, and when i asked said "People get sick during the holidays, i don't wanna get sick." A young (40ish, if that) guy, worked in record stores, "experienced," and it was obvious i was gonna get nowhere talking to him, even if i had the time to do so for a while. Attempts by me to do so with a FB "friend," a mutual friend of a woman whom you and i are friends with, led nowhere, and she's a skeptic of the official narrative but only so far. Three great examples from Nov '20 as to what's essentially wrong with the official narrative, and no one who isn't already convinced seems to care.
Re the 4Bs strike. I would hesitate to say almost all men want women to have abortion rights and full control over the bodies. There are lots of men (and women) who don't, even some in the "freedom" community. Reproductive rights was not anywhere near the top in terms of issues people considered when casting votes, nowhere near economic matters, with lots of Americans hurting due to a bad downturn which has been hidden by the mass media so far. 58% of "white" women voted for the Orange Guy, so do you boycott them too. How about all the Arab Americans who deserted Harris over the admin's blatant support of the Israeli genocide?
But in a way, you are aiding the boycott. :-) You tell women to learn about their sexuality, including about masturbation. Well, maybe if they did, they'd decide they really don't need to seek sex with guys, no? More and more people are discovering as they age that they really don't need to continue driving themselves crazy seeking relationships and then trying to maintain them, maybe younger women would discover this as well.
In my experiencedit's the sexually self aware people who are worth one's time and energy. This especially includes women, who are supposed to be the sex teachers. Then they can bring the men along. But as i wrote to men in 2014:
<<Learn to take care of women's bodies. If you're a man who has physical relationships with women, it's essential that you actually understand something about what a female body is and why it needs special care. Women's bodies are resilient, amazingly strong and do all kinds of fun and biologically fantastic things that men's bodies don't do. They're also more sensitive and more challenging to maintain. Rise above any ignorance and squeamishness you may have, or any sense that the woman's body is some alien "other." Get yourself a copy of Our Bodies, Ourselves and read it carefully. Ask the women in your life about the special care that their particular bodies need. You would be amazed at the subtlety, the detail and most of all at how much you did not know before.>>
https://planetwaves.net/astrologynews/548387711.html
I actually did that, back in the '70s, thirty-five to forty years before you wrote this. Not reciprocated. And she was special. Meaning that the most special woman i ever encountered was actually quite ordinary, selfish, has a TV-structured personality,.. Those lucky people who are self-aware and have hooked up with others who are self-aware, i heartily congratulate them, wish them the best of luck maintaining their special connection. The rest of us just need to learn to be happy with self-sufficiency and stop knocking our heads into the wall once we've done that long enough to say we gave it a shot or two.
"Right now next to nobody even knows what that is because there are no cohesive ideas about it circulating" And that's the reality. Women don't really need the dicks, the men don't really need the pussies, they've simply grown up believing that they do. Yes, there are biological drives, having to do with a reproductive instinct, but if you're one of those who choose to not do so, no reason to go out there and beat yourself up.
Uncle Wilhelm said we have it backwards. He said we think sex is about reproduction and then that shows up as a sexual creative instinct. In reality we have a creative instinct that manifests many ways, and one manifestation is sexual reproduction. He reasoned that maintaining sexual contact with one another, staying in some state of both mutual gratification and balance was necessary for a free society, i.e., not a fascist society. The function of the orgasm is to teach us how to be free and not subject to dictators. A "Trump" could never manifest in a society of sexually self-aware and caring people. He is the product of our collective desperation.
None of the people who have run for president in the last 150 years, if not the entire history of these "United" States, would have manifested in "a society of sexually self-aware and caring people."
Our society is not remotely free. Yes, "staying in some state of both mutual gratification and balance was necessary for a free society," but there hasn't been one since the demise of the societies which existed before centralized city states, aside from such societies as continued to exist in "untamed" parts of the world (a few remain extant), or from a few attempts at total rebellion, such as the federated anarchist collectives in Catalonia in 1936-7 ("Spanish Bombs") which George Orwell participated in/wrote about ("Homage to Catalonia") and Joe Strummer wrote about., and a few other revolutionary episodes.
And humans are biological beings. This includes a reproductive drive, common to all species.
So, in my view, part of sexual maturity and what you might call the Tantric path is teasing out the "reproductive drive" from the erotic creative intuitive aspect of existence. There are many facets of sexual communication and expression that have nothing whatsoever to do with "reproduction" meaning breeding.
Humans do not eat food merely for sustenance. There are endless cultural, social and aesthetic expressions of rituals involving the preparation and sharing of food, but all combined they are a shadow of what we have to learn about one another and ourselves through sexual exploration. It's just that this whole field of knowledge has been so effectively concealed (particularly in the West, by which I mean Judeo - Christian - Muslim society) that it's doubtful whether this inner sanctum exists.
Indeed, humans have developed culture, and this has greatly changed our behavior from the time we were before, both in regard to sex as well as food. We do access inner sanctums in certain states such as psychedelic experiences and deep, deep meditation. Terence McKenna advanced the idea of an "Archaic Revival" via seeking such access.
"He [Wilhelm] reasoned that maintaining sexual contact with one another, staying in some state of both mutual gratification and balance was necessary for a free society, i.e., not a fascist society. The function of the orgasm is to teach us how to be free and not subject to dictators."
He was not at all big on masturbation, i.e. self-sex. One wonders if the sexual contact with one another provides ANYTHING which cannot be attained via self-sex. Certainly a LOT more practical as people's ability to communicate with each other verbally, let alone physically, withers into dust.
What I'm getting at is you don't want sexually needy women. You want sexually self-aware women who desire consciously rather than need; though men participating in their own sexual maturity would be very helpful. Right now next to nobody even knows what that is because there are no cohesive ideas about it circulating -- but that is what you see me doing here.
While it's true we can pleasure ourselves and should, human touch is important. We are a tribal species not meant to be alone. And not just touch, but being able to please and be pleased by someone else. Those who find someone to share this with are indeed lucky. But I get what you are saying. It is tiresome playing the dating game and even more tiring struggling in a relationship that does not yield that special communion.
Human touch is SUPER important. Indeed, humans need love, as in a vital need. See Thomas Lewis "A General Theory of Love." https://www.amazon.com/General-Theory-Love-Thomas-Lewis/dp/0375709223
I was not prescribing that we all refrain from sexual *intercourse*, i.e. the second term requires another person be involved. The young should definitely explore, and if people of any age desire to pursue a relationship involving total mutual consent (adults, of course), why not?
But the reality is that of dating *games* (well chosen word) which are more than anything else about manipulation, and relationships that don't yield that special communion, or even worse, are an energy drain, quite often ones which started out magical and then soured. My longest one turned into a matter of several years of physical abuse (of me).
The "fuck-less Nineties" (Bette Dotson) were the time i got divorced, a terrible time to become and be single, and the pickings got slimmer and slimmer as society around me degenerated into digital disembodiment and increasingly sank into a totalitarian mode, with 9/11 and what's ensued since. Even looking at the few "freedom" folks in Berkeley and the Bay Area leaves me pretty convinced the days of relationships are behind me. So, i take care of myself.
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