Anyone that knows me well will know exactly what I will zero in on first in all of this - and that is the last 20 minutes of this show. Tantra Studio is always my favorite, but Eric your angle on how politicized and woke and anti woke our sex and gender has become just nailed it. If we are going to seek freedom of choice in this country,…
Anyone that knows me well will know exactly what I will zero in on first in all of this - and that is the last 20 minutes of this show. Tantra Studio is always my favorite, but Eric your angle on how politicized and woke and anti woke our sex and gender has become just nailed it. If we are going to seek freedom of choice in this country, in this world, we have to give people the right to be sexually free along with all other aspects (medical freedom, political freedom, educational freedom, etc) of our lives.
Want to talk about not doing gender reassignment surgery on children? (yes please) Let's talk about how doctors justify doing surgery on newborns that have no choice at all when they are born in-between or something other than what we were taught in the flexner influenced anatomy classes in schools. The human race is very diverse in every way. Instead of trying to box that up out of fear and tradition, lets let our gender, sexuality and preferences blossom. Otherwise we are stuck with shame, judgement and an artificial sense of self.
I went back to school in 2017 to study sexology. The healthy idea of being able to talk more honestly and freely about sex is one reason I felt so passionate about studying and working in this field. Another thing I am lit up about is the whole intersex situation. There is so little known about it and so much emotional, physical and sexual harm is brought to people who are different. Time to start talking about this stuff and adding humanity back to all facets of who we all are.
Iva, hello. I was tired at the end of the show, and missed my planned crescendo (maybe for the best, left to another week). Everyone has Venus, Mars and Mercury in their chart, the feminine, the masculine and the hermaphroditic, all distributed amongst masculine and feminine energy fields. What else can I say, everyone is some shade of bi, trans, or intersex -- we all have it all, in greater or lesser measure.
Iva, meant to tell you days ago, i responded to Tantra Studios elsewhere here. It was about the idea that "almost everyone is bisexual," with which i strongly disagree.
Hmmm...well, I consider myself bisexual and that doesn't really apply to me. For example, one of my favorite modes of sex is with a male/female couple...and in that circumstance I can be wide open to men sexually...but not in many others.
Hmmm...well, I consider myself bisexual and that doesn't really apply to me. For example, one of my favorite modes of sex is with a male/female couple...and in that circumstance I can be wide open to men sexually...but not in many others. I am not attracted to men in any kind of a general way like I am with women. With men it's highly specific to the person and the circumstance.
What i said was "Attracted physically/sexually to both men and women. " I did NOT say "equally" to both. I assume you don't have sex with men whom you are not in any way attracted to sexually/physically. I've never had any sort of physical/sexual attraction to any men. Including those whom i thought would probably be physically attractive to women or to other men. Like i've mentioned to you, i underwent an "acid test" in this regard, on a San Francisco beach.
I would propose that bisexuality comes in an infinite number of varieties. And there are heterosexual people. However, I am also aware that for most, homoerotic feelings are often concealed behind many forms of defenses, cultural acceptability and much else. So they can be difficult to access for many who do possess them.
I know a whole bunch of people who came through a crucible at the same time, we were part of the anarchist/left communist milieu in the SF Bay Area in the mid/late '70s. Bisexuality was put forth by many in that milieu as being the norm, and someone was deemed not truly liberated till acknowledging this "fact." I went through some of the same pressures in the anarchist/post-modernist Berkeley scene in the '90s. Anyone who cannot accept my heterosexuality can kindly fuck off.
In other words, wasn't like i haven't been in situations in which bisexuality was not only not only NOT proscribed but actively promoted and indeed promoted as a NORM.
To clarify, my "kindly fuck off remark" was in the context of what i experienced in those communities and may experience in dissent communities in the future. Not at all personally directed at either you or Iva.
Hi Jeffery. When you said that I right away thought of the Kinsey Scale. While that is a much simplified graph of sexual experience and desire, we all have varying degrees of what we like and at one point or another in our lives. And it's good that the variables can be a topic of discussion. Being fully heterosexual or fully homosexual is part of the picture for some, I feel. But we all know ourselves. And who can really fit into any of those graphs or boxes anyway?
There are the aspects of attraction like intellectual and social and such that can be a bit like falling in love with the moment with someone. Doesn't necessarily mean you're interested in sex or care what their body parts are. I find that attraction from a variety of angles is a great way to be more tuned into the moment.
Kinsey used terrible methodology. I do not remotely assume he offered a good model of understanding. His estimates of the percentage of people who are same-sex or both-sexes attracted have been contradicted a bunch of times, be it by Simon LeVey working on a physical model (a neural scientist who's a gay political activist) as well as people doing surveys, such as the gay advocacy group the Marshall Institute (UCLA) and others.
To re-post from above.
I know a whole bunch of people who came through a crucible at the same time, we were part of the anarchist/left communist milieu in the SF Bay Area in the mid/late '70s. Bisexuality was put forth by many in that milieu as being the norm, and someone was deemed not truly liberated till acknowledging this "fact." I went through some of the same pressures in the anarchist/post-modernist Berkeley scene in the '90s. Anyone who cannot accept my heterosexuality can kindly fuck off.
Well, yes, Kinsey had some serious flaws. But at that time to actually say out loud and with research behind it to say there are more people experiencing and desiring homosexuality than society wants us all to believe was pretty groundbreaking.
But as far as percentages? Who really knows. Survey and research are a small segment of how the real world is living. I don't care how elaborate or well funded the research is. Generally when there's big money behind it, there's that pesky agenda lurking in the shadows, no matter the research topic.
A bunch of studies have been made, they've all reached very similar figures, despite starting from totally different places, be they physical, cultural or psychological. Why would gay advocacy people and centers understate the numbers?
To clarify, my earlier "kindly fuck off remark" was in the context of what i experienced in those communities and may experience in dissent communities in the future. Not at all personally directed at either you or Eric.
Thanks, Iva, i wanted to make sure readers were clear on that too. I guess i've accumulated a lot of bad feelings about being pressured about that matter from all sorts of directions, be it from the correctness anarchists/"Situationists" i described being around, or from my father, who kept saying back when i was in college that he'll send me to a psychiatrist to see if i was gay (he used a different term) because i wasn't dating girls (try doing that while being an asocial engineering student in uptight late 60s New York outside the East Village or the like), or those who threatened me with gay bashing on UC Berkeley's Sproul Plaza for jeering speakers at a Fundi Christian rally who were using extreme homophobic language in their rants.
Anyone that knows me well will know exactly what I will zero in on first in all of this - and that is the last 20 minutes of this show. Tantra Studio is always my favorite, but Eric your angle on how politicized and woke and anti woke our sex and gender has become just nailed it. If we are going to seek freedom of choice in this country, in this world, we have to give people the right to be sexually free along with all other aspects (medical freedom, political freedom, educational freedom, etc) of our lives.
Want to talk about not doing gender reassignment surgery on children? (yes please) Let's talk about how doctors justify doing surgery on newborns that have no choice at all when they are born in-between or something other than what we were taught in the flexner influenced anatomy classes in schools. The human race is very diverse in every way. Instead of trying to box that up out of fear and tradition, lets let our gender, sexuality and preferences blossom. Otherwise we are stuck with shame, judgement and an artificial sense of self.
I went back to school in 2017 to study sexology. The healthy idea of being able to talk more honestly and freely about sex is one reason I felt so passionate about studying and working in this field. Another thing I am lit up about is the whole intersex situation. There is so little known about it and so much emotional, physical and sexual harm is brought to people who are different. Time to start talking about this stuff and adding humanity back to all facets of who we all are.
Iva, hello. I was tired at the end of the show, and missed my planned crescendo (maybe for the best, left to another week). Everyone has Venus, Mars and Mercury in their chart, the feminine, the masculine and the hermaphroditic, all distributed amongst masculine and feminine energy fields. What else can I say, everyone is some shade of bi, trans, or intersex -- we all have it all, in greater or lesser measure.
Indeed. It's good to have the anticipation of more to come on this topic, as there are buried treasures to be found here.
Iva, meant to tell you days ago, i responded to Tantra Studios elsewhere here. It was about the idea that "almost everyone is bisexual," with which i strongly disagree.
how do you define bisexual?
Attracted physically/sexually to both men and women.
Hmmm...well, I consider myself bisexual and that doesn't really apply to me. For example, one of my favorite modes of sex is with a male/female couple...and in that circumstance I can be wide open to men sexually...but not in many others.
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Hmmm...well, I consider myself bisexual and that doesn't really apply to me. For example, one of my favorite modes of sex is with a male/female couple...and in that circumstance I can be wide open to men sexually...but not in many others. I am not attracted to men in any kind of a general way like I am with women. With men it's highly specific to the person and the circumstance.
What i said was "Attracted physically/sexually to both men and women. " I did NOT say "equally" to both. I assume you don't have sex with men whom you are not in any way attracted to sexually/physically. I've never had any sort of physical/sexual attraction to any men. Including those whom i thought would probably be physically attractive to women or to other men. Like i've mentioned to you, i underwent an "acid test" in this regard, on a San Francisco beach.
I would propose that bisexuality comes in an infinite number of varieties. And there are heterosexual people. However, I am also aware that for most, homoerotic feelings are often concealed behind many forms of defenses, cultural acceptability and much else. So they can be difficult to access for many who do possess them.
To re-post from above.
I know a whole bunch of people who came through a crucible at the same time, we were part of the anarchist/left communist milieu in the SF Bay Area in the mid/late '70s. Bisexuality was put forth by many in that milieu as being the norm, and someone was deemed not truly liberated till acknowledging this "fact." I went through some of the same pressures in the anarchist/post-modernist Berkeley scene in the '90s. Anyone who cannot accept my heterosexuality can kindly fuck off.
In other words, wasn't like i haven't been in situations in which bisexuality was not only not only NOT proscribed but actively promoted and indeed promoted as a NORM.
I understand; that's all been irrelevant to my journey...I've always been guided inwardly.
Me too. It's still a fact that i was pressured.
To clarify, my "kindly fuck off remark" was in the context of what i experienced in those communities and may experience in dissent communities in the future. Not at all personally directed at either you or Iva.
Hi Jeffery. When you said that I right away thought of the Kinsey Scale. While that is a much simplified graph of sexual experience and desire, we all have varying degrees of what we like and at one point or another in our lives. And it's good that the variables can be a topic of discussion. Being fully heterosexual or fully homosexual is part of the picture for some, I feel. But we all know ourselves. And who can really fit into any of those graphs or boxes anyway?
There are the aspects of attraction like intellectual and social and such that can be a bit like falling in love with the moment with someone. Doesn't necessarily mean you're interested in sex or care what their body parts are. I find that attraction from a variety of angles is a great way to be more tuned into the moment.
Kinsey used terrible methodology. I do not remotely assume he offered a good model of understanding. His estimates of the percentage of people who are same-sex or both-sexes attracted have been contradicted a bunch of times, be it by Simon LeVey working on a physical model (a neural scientist who's a gay political activist) as well as people doing surveys, such as the gay advocacy group the Marshall Institute (UCLA) and others.
To re-post from above.
I know a whole bunch of people who came through a crucible at the same time, we were part of the anarchist/left communist milieu in the SF Bay Area in the mid/late '70s. Bisexuality was put forth by many in that milieu as being the norm, and someone was deemed not truly liberated till acknowledging this "fact." I went through some of the same pressures in the anarchist/post-modernist Berkeley scene in the '90s. Anyone who cannot accept my heterosexuality can kindly fuck off.
Well, yes, Kinsey had some serious flaws. But at that time to actually say out loud and with research behind it to say there are more people experiencing and desiring homosexuality than society wants us all to believe was pretty groundbreaking.
But as far as percentages? Who really knows. Survey and research are a small segment of how the real world is living. I don't care how elaborate or well funded the research is. Generally when there's big money behind it, there's that pesky agenda lurking in the shadows, no matter the research topic.
A bunch of studies have been made, they've all reached very similar figures, despite starting from totally different places, be they physical, cultural or psychological. Why would gay advocacy people and centers understate the numbers?
To clarify, my earlier "kindly fuck off remark" was in the context of what i experienced in those communities and may experience in dissent communities in the future. Not at all personally directed at either you or Eric.
did not even consider the thought that you directed anything about your comment at me or Eric. I am not judging your sexuality at all.
Thanks, Iva, i wanted to make sure readers were clear on that too. I guess i've accumulated a lot of bad feelings about being pressured about that matter from all sorts of directions, be it from the correctness anarchists/"Situationists" i described being around, or from my father, who kept saying back when i was in college that he'll send me to a psychiatrist to see if i was gay (he used a different term) because i wasn't dating girls (try doing that while being an asocial engineering student in uptight late 60s New York outside the East Village or the like), or those who threatened me with gay bashing on UC Berkeley's Sproul Plaza for jeering speakers at a Fundi Christian rally who were using extreme homophobic language in their rants.
not taking it personally - this is sensitive territory